Chance or Choice??

Sharing an exchange between me and my friend via FB..

Original Post: Do things happen to us by chance or by choice??

Jun Rodriguez: one philosopher said.. "It comes to you as an opportunity or by CHANCE as you may say it.. Then comes the decision you make or the power to choose which path you take and the outcome will simply be the CHOICE you made.."

All things are connected with each other. It incorporate all aspect of life. So the next time something happens, remember, it's only a chance that can lead you to your choice..

-S'Lancelot III

Me: so Jun, I would assume that you believe in fate??

Jun Rodriguez: call it de ja vu or fate.. but everything that happens already happened.. i dont know how to explain it but sometime fragments can come out of dream while your on a deep sleep.. then the next coming days or months, or even years you'll stop and say these things happened already.. you just cant explain how but deep down inside you know it did happen..

and thats why i believe in it..

Me: to each his own I suppose. my head's debating on the concept. chance or choice or probably both but its a bit disturbing to just leave things out to fate. one would like to think they have some sense of control with what happens to them. but once you choose what door to open it automatically leaves your other options for that particular situation closed. which makes you think of all the possibilities that you've forfeited. the "what if" of it all. most people tend to make "fate" the excuse for their place in the universe. so where does the blame really fall, chance or choice??

Jun Rodriguez: I'm no wise when it come this. I had my fair share of troubles and what if's.. but there's no real answer or remedy for all of these. like you said, once you choose the door the other one will be closed. life is evolving and everything is a constant change. you just have to be happy with the choice you take or be affected by the what if's for the rest if your life.. a famous quote by jkr says, help will always be given at hogwarts for those who deserve it.. in life, no matter what decision you make and how difficult may it be to you, you can count there's always an unexplainable answer that will come your way.. Let it go.. Just go with the flow and everything will just follow. Above all things, reflect and meditate. Pray for that's the only weapon you have to withstand the test of time..

Me: Wise words.. I think we've all have our fair share of "what if's". That's for sure. It's just that sometimes, when you're not sure where you are in life or when you're not where you thought your decisions will lead you to, it makes you stop and think back. It is too late to take back things that's already done most of the time, 'cause one can't really go back to that crossroad. But sometimes the mind wonders.. Even you've been careful with the choices you made in life, things may still not what you thought it would be. It's the outside factors that sometime stink and leaving it all to fate just seem really stupid!!